maandag 5 maart 2012

Why are you still Single ?

A LOT of people think that being Single is a Bad thing, and being a Single mom is worse.Well, I don't. I never planned to be a single mom, but when the time came it's what I chose for. My son is my life, my everything, my heart. I want nothing but the Best for him. and this is Best for him. Why should I be ashamed of being a Single Mom? I'm proud, raising a toddler on my own, making my own money, doing everything on my own and I am lucky enough and blessed that I have my family who is also always there for me and my son.

Everyone who knows me knows I'm a single mom, but when I tell them I don't want a new boyfriend they look at me in this weird way, as if I am crazy.
Ever since my first boyfriend I have always been in relationships. I could never be alone, be single. And now looking back I think, or better yet I know that was my weakness. It's been 2 and a half years, this is the longest time I have ever been single. If i broke up with an exboyfriend I immediatly jumped in another relationship. I could never stay single, until now.

Society has us believing that being single is something we should be ashamed about, and that being in a relationship is the ultimate measure of succes.
You can have everything and be succesful but still don't feel completely happy because you are single.
I myself have been there and felt like that.
I learned that being Single can be a good thing. Time alone is good. You learn so much about yourself, you find yourself. Often when we are in (wrong) relationships we lose ourselves. We change so much for that other person, try to live up to their expectations.

Now, My son is my priority.
I'm happy as a Single Mom. After everything I have been through the past years, and being single the past 2 and a half years I have learned a Lot about myself. I know exactly what I want in life, what I want in a man, and most importantly what I don't want.I'm having fun spending my time with my son, with friends and I can focus on work and school. I don't have to worry about calling someone, or answering to someone. There is no worrying. I don't have to justify my actions to anyone. There is no compromising myself or what i want.
My life is now way more organized and I am truly happy with myself

Being single doesn't suck. When you're just out of a relationship you just have to get used to it, but once you do it can be Great.
I believe that when the Time is right I will meet my Prince Charming. And from now on I Refuse to settle for anything or anyone Less than I deserve.
Ofcourse I want to get married someday and live happily ever after. But I believe that when the time is right it will happen. I removed myself from shitty relationships, so now Mr. Right has the chance to find me. I'd rather stay single and enjoy life with myself, than be in a shitty relationship where I am the one crying every week or not truly happy.

There are enough good reasons why being single doesn't suck. It's about perspective. So if you hate the thought of, or being single, Don't. just look at it from another perspective. I know that I will find my Mr. Right (Or he will find me) but until then i will Enjoy life as a SingleMom!

3 opmerkingen:

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  3. There's something about being single and learning about yourself that is so fabulous and... nice. I'm single. I'm a mom. And I've learned so much about myself in the last two years. I wouldn't trade that growth for the world.